When listening to another person, don’t just listen with your mind,
listen with your whole body. Feel the energy field of your inner body
as you listen. That takes attention away from thinking and creates a
still space that enables you to truly listen without the mind interfering.
You are giving the other person space — space to be. It is the most
precious gift you can give. Most people don’t know how to listen
because the major part of their attention is taken up by thinking. They
pay more attention to that than to what the other person is saying,
and none at all to what really matters: the Being of the other person
underneath the words and the mind. Of course, you cannot feel
someone else’s Being except through your own. This is the beginning
of the realization of oneness, which is love. At the deepest level of
Being, you are one with all that is.
Most human relationships consist mainly of minds interacting with
each other, not of human beings communicating, being in communion.
No relationship can thrive in that way, and that is why there is so
much conflict in relationships. When the mind is running your life,
conflict, strife, and problems are inevitable. Being in touch with your
inner body creates a clear space of no-mind within which the
relationship can flower.
CHAPTER SEVEN
PORTALS INTO
THE UNMANIFESTED